How to Be Nice to Women and Still Sleep with Them

How tough does it have to be not to be “nice?”

Well, it can be… for the exact reasons any
dating science personality change can be hard. What
we’re doing in our approach is calibrating specific
aspects of our personality.

So, let’s say you were like I was ten years ago…
and you need to be “less nice.” Well, how much less?
How do we know when we’re right?

And here’s a potential problem. If you could map every
attribute of your personality from 1-10, you could probably
figure out a good level for each trait, and its
unfrequently to the extreme. Even among the eight attraction triggers
talked about in Magic Bullets (the 8 traits that
all girls react to, no matter who you -or they-
are), you can go too far.

Take confidence, for example. Being an eight out of ten or a nine out
of ten regarding confidence is awesome. Being 10 out of 10 is…
a little bit weird. Women might find that intimidating, or
assume you are covering something up or are weird or inhuman
in some way.

So, being nice or nicer works the same way. Imagine you created a range in which
“nice” was a “one” and “jerk” was a “ten”, you may wanna be
around a six to an eight. [Don't take the actual numbers too seriously;
this is to illustrate an idea.] And a lot of “nice guys” are
around a 3.

What happens a lot is that guys experiment with being more of a
jerk. They get some results. They push a bit more. They get more
great results. Then inexplicably, some women start having negative
reactions.

What really went on is this “guy” is hitting a nine or a
ten on the scale. However it is very difficult to see this, because most guys
are subconciously or even consciously changing how they show themselves
along a bunch of different dimensions. So the guy who is being less
nice is also using the Emotional Progression Model from Magic Bullets
and delivering great routines. For the most part, he’s improving with
women, but this overall improvement masks the fact that he’s gone
too far in 1 section.

This goes on all the time, it is almost impossible for the majority of people to actually
self-analyze what they are doing right and wrong.

So, is the lesson that people sometimes take good dating advice to
an extreme? No… that would be much more obvious and shorter.
My point is actually quite different: if you are learning on your
own, you SHOULD take new techniques to an extreme. For example:

-Touching/kino: be the creepy overly-touchy guy for a while.
-Closing; attempt to get the girl to go home with you everytime you approach.
-Too quiet/too passive: be the crazy dancing monkey.
-And so on…

In my view, and i have personally taught 100′s of men in the last 5
years, this includes a ton of guys who have progressed to the instructor level-
most men need to learn the range of useful behavior. Moreover, you
need to develop an instinctive feel for it. You need to get used to
the signs you get when you’re {being too nice~{the clues you receive when you are acting too nice}~the signals you get when you’re being too nice}. You must get used to
the signals you receive when you are acting like too much of a jerk. You need to be
able to recognize these early, when you’re only a little bit outside of
the ideal range, so you can calibrate back into it quickly. With practice
and experimentation, this will come naturally.

You most likely do this already. Let’s use the example of just talking
to a friend. You know what the ideal volume range is from experience.
However if you wind up outside of that range- like you have just gotten off
the plane and your ears are plugged and you don’t realize how loudly
you are talking – you will quickly and instinctively give yourself the
feedback you have to have to change… often without thinking about it.

When you are very loud, you will probably see people looking in your
direction more than usual, you might notice your friend shifting his
head back and looking less relaxed, or you might feel a difference in
your chest. When you are not making enough noise, your buddy will move in closer to hear
you, it might seem like the guy is paying attention to what you are saying more
than average, and so on. All of these are feedback mechanisms that let
you change your behavior. And they work, because you have lots of
experience with being too loud or too quiet in normal social situations
and have found out how to change the way you present yourself.

Learn exactly how to tell when you are doing too much or not enough of
something by being conscious of what results to expect when
you do.

Let’s apply this to niceness. What do you think are signs that you’re
being too kind?

-She chats about other guys when you’re around.

-She is comfortable touching you or being touched, but there’s
no sexuality behind it

-She wishes her boyfriend (or more men in general) were more like you.

-She isn’t dressed up/looking good when she meets you(unless you happen to be going out
somewhere).

-She takes calls from other men around you.

[This isn't a checklist. None of these necessarily mean you are too nice,
and not all of these signs may appear even when you are being too nice.]

Similarly, there are some common signs to be aware of when you are
being too much of a jerk:

-She calls you an “asshole” or “mean” (without smiling). A girl can call
you a jerk, evil, a player, or bad news and still be incredibly attracted to
you. Or she can call you anything while smiling. But most women will not
call you an asshole or tell you that you’re mean and actually want you.
Some words have more power than others with women; this is something we
sometimes get to in my advanced 1-1s and phone coaching.

-She’s not comfortable being alone with you.

-You’re teasing her or “negging” her and it used to get a positive response
but is now getting a negative one.

With any change you make, take it to both extremes (too much and too little)
and get accustomed to where the boundary lines are.

As a more advanced thought, if you’re trying to be less of the “nice guy,”
I have had much more success showing guys how to be selfish rather than jerks.”
When you are a jerk, you intentionally put another person down. When
you are selfish, doing what you want first. And that’s the problem
for most “nice guys.” They put other peoples’ needs and wants above their own.

I am not saying guys should be selfish for no good reason. Remember to just do this if you’re
seeing the usual nice/good guy reactions from girls. End or change plans when you do not feel
like going out or something more interesting comes up. With in reason, do not
offer to pick her up, drive her home, etc. Dates should be things that you’d
love doing either way- this doesn’t matter if you are normally too nice or not,
and Chapter 17 (Dates) of Magic Bullets explains why. When you’re faced with
a conclusion, ask your mind what a very selfish guy would do. And so on.

Finally, a major problem that most “nice guys” have is a fear of approaching women
which also goes by the name of approach anxiety. Figuring out exactly how to cure your approach
anxiety will lessen the amount of women that see you as a “nice” guy. If
this is a problem for you and you would like to get it taken care of in less than 30
days,

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Pick the foundation that has closely resemblance with your skin tone. Apply the foundation in dots over the face and spread it on your whole face with makeup sponge or with your fingers until it cover your whole face smoothly.

To keep your foundation and concealer for long time use a pressed powder. Use pressed powder to touch up when you are away from home.

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ine lips first and then apply the lipstick color that’s suited to your skin tone and that’s perfect for your day look also. You can also use mixture of colors to apply the lipstick according to your mood.

Romance and Love

Skating - Break the ice, by taking your date roller or ice skating at a local rink. Follow this up with hot chocolate and conversation in a cozy cafe.

Zen Date - Relax your date by taking them to a meditation or light-working session at the local Buddhist temple. Relax afterwards by enjoying a good meal in an Indian restaurant.

Do You Have a Future Together? - Visit your local psychic together to have your palms and tarot cards read. Get a past-life reading to see if you have known each other in a past incarnation.

Art Tour - Spend a day together visiting all the art galleries and museums that you can. Make sure you visit the gift shop of the museum to buy your love a token that expresses your appreciation of him or her.

Antique Hunting - Look in the papers and treat your date to a day of scouring antique markets and flea markets for treasures.

Mazes and Labyrinths - If your city has a maze, see if you and your date can get lost together inside it. Walking a labyrinth together is not only said to be good for the soul, but it will help you define your goals together.

What's For Dinner? - Sign the both of you up for a cooking class. You'll be giggling and feeding each other delicious tid-bits in no time.

Feng Shui Date - Visit your local China Town and hunt for lucky charms, windmills and small statues to bring the two of you health, wealth and happiness. Finish your shopping excursion off with a meal for two at a Chinese restaurant.

Dancing Lessons - Enroll the two of you in dancing lessons so that you can learn classic moves such as tango, ballroom dancing or square dancing. This is especially nice for seniors on a first date who wish to break the ice.

Play in the Snow - If its snowy outside take advantage of the weather and build an ice sculpture or snowman together. Get on a toboggan together and slide downhill (holding each other very close of course.) Finish the day off with a hot chocolate or apple cider in front of a crackling fire.

Love Letters - Buy special paper and pens and make a date to sit across from each other at a table and write each other a love letter - in front of each other! You can call this letter "Ten Things I Love About You." Then exchange the letters and read them out loud. Torrid romance almost always ensues right after this one!

King or Queen for A Day - Assign a date where you will treat your lover as if he or she is King or Queen for that day. The idea is that your date does not have to lift a finger while you meet every supply or demand. This package should include a foot rub as well as the proffering of the date's favorite foods.

The Sunrise Date - Surprise your date by calling them early in the morning and asking if they want to meet to watch the sunrise with you. Drive to a beach or some other beautiful location. Afterwards share a brunch at a cozy restaurant.

Is Love Painful?

Who hasn't experienced the pain of love? Or is it the pain of rejection? The pain of self doubt? The pain of fear? It's important to distinguish between love and totally separate feelings.

When it comes to pain surrounding love, we're more likely referring to the “add-ons” of love. The love baggage, we might call it. For some reason, many people assume negative emotions are a part or element of love. But experientially we know this isn't true.

Love is not painful, it feels incredible. The pain and hurt we feel doesn’t come from love, it comes from our doubts, fears, anxiety, perceived rejections, broken trusts, anger, jealousy, envy, etc. So why do we as a culture lump all those other feelings in with love?

Perhaps its because we feel these uncomfortable emotions most often in association with our love relationships. Our primary relationships are important to us, so we assume these doubts and fears are all part of the loving experience. But is this really true?

When we are fearful, angry, anxious, unhappy, or jealous, are we truly experiencing a state of love? They sure feel different, don't they? Love feels warm, open, joyous and filled with a deep sense of appreciation. Pain steps into a love relationship when you switch it from a "wanted relationship," into a "needed relationship." You don't NEED any one relationship. Want? Yes. Need? No.

If you go into a relationship not feeling terribly good about yourself, you're more likely to become dependent on your partner to help you feel good about yourself. If we felt empty before they appeared in our lives, we fear the emptiness returning if they leave, so their staying with us becomes paramount. That dependency can create all kinds of fear and unhappiness when there's a perceived threat to you staying together.

If we aren’t giving ourselves the acceptance we crave, we look to those around us to provide it for us. Again, none of this has a thing to do with the love you feel, but everything to do with the fear you feel.

If you really want to remove the love baggage of fear and unhappiness, the first step is to improve your self awareness and self acceptance