Thursday, September 16, 2010

Avoiding A Love Break Up - It Is Possible


Hey are you nervous you are heading for or going via a love break up? Is that sick empty feeling starting to type in the pit of your stomach? Are you finding your self talk is constantly focused on your relationship? Yeah? Then I can relate to what your going by way of I have been down that highway, an unsure future without your partner generally is a scary proposition, nevertheless it doesn’t should be this way! avoiding a love break up is feasible “WARNING” it will take you out of your consolation zone.

You’ll need to take action proper now the longer you delay the higher the possibilities of a everlasting break up happening. To start you could know your want to save lots of your relationship is amicable, opening the doors to communication is the only place to begin. This means “TALK” some one must take the lead and seen you’re looking for solutions my pal that ball is in your court. “Hey I never said avoiding a love break up can be straightforward”, there are signs your relationship is heading for the again door and I don’t have to spell them out to you your not silly otherwise you would not be here.

So approach your associate and share your issues and emotions and keep in mind that is share time not blame communicate from a space of love not anger. All you’re doing is making it clear to your accomplice that you’re concerned that issues are not nicely in your relationship. “LISTEN” to what your accomplice has to say they may have had related considerations however given the circumstances communications between one another will have been restricted stopping them from being open with you in the past.

There might be things your accomplice will level out that you’ll not want to hear, never the less don’t be defensive. Bear in mind you took the initiative so stay calm so the dialog stays positive, if you lose the plot things will solely flip ugly.The conversation needs to end with some type of commitment to one another to begin taking measurable actions and I do not imply jumping in the sack having great sex and thinking each things now OK, there will likely be private changes to be made by each parties.

When avoiding a love break up things aren’t at all times going to go smoothly there are certain to be bumps an extended the street to making up, however if you happen to look there are particular strategies and advise that can assist you cope with these situations. I do know things aren’t good now, the actual fact you’ve read this far means you aren’t sure of the future. “Ah if solely I knew again then what I do know now issues may need been completely different” These aren’t words you might be eager to lament years from now. Now I’m no Dr. Phil so I urge you to seek worthy advise as your relationship deserves a lot more consideration than this article can give it.
In case your struggling together with your relationship or going through a break up and have a burning want to reunite with the one you’re keen on, you will need key methods!

Monday, September 13, 2010

Marilyn Manson Loses His Makeup, Gains a Mullet


Believe it or not, the mullet-wearing man in this photo is actually controversial shock-rocker and performance artist Marilyn Manson.

The 41-year-old (real name: Brian Warner) is rarely seen without his goth-like heavy white makeup, black-rimmed eyes, and red lips, so why is he sporting such a distinctly all-American look in this photo?

According to Interview magazine's website, which published the photo, it's because Manson is a huge fan of a certain TV show.

Interview reports that Manson is a "diehard" fan of HBO's "Eastbound & Down," the critically worshiped comedy starring Danny McBride as a washed-up former baseball star whose trademark mullet and angry face Manson is imitating in this photo.

Interview's reporter Hunter Stephenson was intrigued when he found out from "Eastbound" creators that Manson is "obsessed" with the show and its sporting protagonist, Kenny Powers. So he asked a director currently working with Manson about it.

"Whenever I see Manson, he's repeating entire chunks of dialogue and dressed like Kenny," Adam Bhala Lough, who's directing Manson in the upcoming film "Splatter Sisters," told Interview. Lough went on to say that Manson dresses like "Eastbound" character Kenny Powers all the time, and provided this photo, credited to Manson himself, as "evidence."

While it's completely believable that Manson would be a fan of the hilarious "Eastbound" -- despite his freakish exterior, Manson does have a decent sense of humor -- it's also worth noting that "Eastbound & Down" co-director David Gordon Green is also producing "Splatter Sisters." Hmmm.

Tuesday, September 7, 2010

Bachelorette Ali: I'm "Confident" I Picked the Right Guy

No regrets for Ali Fedotowsky.

As recently revealed by Us Weekly, the Bachelorette star winds up with a fiance and a ring on her finger on the ABC show's Aug. 2 finale, with an early 2011 wedding in the works.

"I'm just confident in the decisions I made," Fedotowsky, 25, told Entertainment Tonight at Thurdsay's Bowling with the Stars event at Lucky Strike Lanes in Hollywood.



On this past Monday's episode, she whittled down her suitors to a final trio: Roberto, Chris L., and Frank -- showing Kirk the door.

The former Facebook ad sales rep, 25, also hinted about which two men will make it to the finish line. "Both guys just have so much integrity," she told UsMagazine.com at Thursday's event. "They are just stand up, honorable and have a lot of respect for others. I just think they are men."

She added, "they are both the type of guys that any mother or father dream that their daughter would find it. And I think that's what makes them really great guys!"

The reality star admitted that she's anxious to step out with her husband-to-be once the finale airs. "I'm sort of in a limbo phase in my life right now...I'm really looking forward to everything sort of wrapping up!"

Tell Us: who do you think Ali chose? Which guys will be in the final two?

Monday, September 6, 2010

Confidence Thinking-How To Be Happy


How can I be happy?
It sounds like such a simple thing, to be happy. Yet, why does it seem to be such a struggle to accomplish something that should be so basic and easy?
I think it comes down to a few basic things.

Photo by Ken Raeside, all rights reserved

1. What's your basic mindset about life?
Are you looking for the positive in situations or do you like to dwell on the negative? It's completely your decision as to what you focus on. What you choose to look for in the various situations you encounter will influence how you feel about your life. If you think everyone is out to cheat you, that's what you'll see in every situation. So, the trick is to pay attention to what you're choosing and deciding to concentrate on. You can see the opportunities or you can see the possibilities for disaster. You can see what you've gained or learned from the situation or you can see how someone has hurt you. It's completely up to you.

2. What are you beliefs in regards to what does happy mean to you?
It's important to actually figure out what happiness is to you. Happiness to one person is not going to satisfy someone else. To you, happiness might mean having a fulfilling career and enough money to do the activities you want to do when you want to do them. To someone else, happiness might be having a lot of family and friends. You need to know what makes you happy and to be aware of making that a priority for you.

3. Are you just reacting to your emotions or are you deciding how you want to respond to a situation?
Your emotions are tools for you to use. They're not meant to control your thoughts and actions. Listening to what you're telling yourself and then deciding to choose your thoughts will greatly increase your ability to understand and experience happiness.

4. Allow yourself to feel joy
This might sound like a strange one but do you allow yourself to feel joy? It's easy to get caught up in thinking that you shouldn't enjoy the moment or that you're being irresponsible if you're not constantly being serious. Or feeling joy may even make you feel vulnerable. You might think that people can hurt you if you allow yourself to feel joy or get excited about something. Thinking this way only denies you your own happiness though.

Allowing yourself to feel job is also realizing that you deserve to feel joy. It's not something that just happens to other people. You deserve joy and happiness in your life. So, when you feel joy, allow yourself to deeply and fully experience the moment. Don't just brush it off. Feel it totally and completely. It's a wonderful feeling so enjoy it when it happens.

Joy and happiness can happen at any time. You see a beautiful flower or you see someone laughing or your dog does something silly. It doesn't have to be something huge and momentous. In fact, it's the little things that bring us the most happiness. Look for those things and when you see them, allow yourself to truly enjoy the moment.

Wednesday, September 1, 2010

How to Be Nice to Women and Still Sleep with Them


How tough does it have to be not to be “nice?”

Well, it can be… for the exact reasons any
dating science personality change can be hard. What
we’re doing in our approach is calibrating specific
aspects of our personality.

So, let’s say you were like I was ten years ago…
and you need to be “less nice.” Well, how much less?
How do we know when we’re right?

And here’s a potential problem. If you could map every
attribute of your personality from 1-10, you could probably
figure out a good level for each trait, and its
unfrequently to the extreme. Even among the eight attraction triggers
talked about in Magic Bullets (the 8 traits that
all girls react to, no matter who you -or they-
are), you can go too far.

Take confidence, for example. Being an eight out of ten or a nine out
of ten regarding confidence is awesome. Being 10 out of 10 is…
a little bit weird. Women might find that intimidating, or
assume you are covering something up or are weird or inhuman
in some way.

So, being nice or nicer works the same way. Imagine you created a range in which
“nice” was a “one” and “jerk” was a “ten”, you may wanna be
around a six to an eight. [Don't take the actual numbers too seriously;
this is to illustrate an idea.] And a lot of “nice guys” are
around a 3.

What happens a lot is that guys experiment with being more of a
jerk. They get some results. They push a bit more. They get more
great results. Then inexplicably, some women start having negative
reactions.

What really went on is this “guy” is hitting a nine or a
ten on the scale. However it is very difficult to see this, because most guys
are subconciously or even consciously changing how they show themselves
along a bunch of different dimensions. So the guy who is being less
nice is also using the Emotional Progression Model from Magic Bullets
and delivering great routines. For the most part, he’s improving with
women, but this overall improvement masks the fact that he’s gone
too far in 1 section.

This goes on all the time, it is almost impossible for the majority of people to actually
self-analyze what they are doing right and wrong.

So, is the lesson that people sometimes take good dating advice to
an extreme? No… that would be much more obvious and shorter.
My point is actually quite different: if you are learning on your
own, you SHOULD take new techniques to an extreme. For example:

-Touching/kino: be the creepy overly-touchy guy for a while.
-Closing; attempt to get the girl to go home with you everytime you approach.
-Too quiet/too passive: be the crazy dancing monkey.
-And so on…

In my view, and i have personally taught 100′s of men in the last 5
years, this includes a ton of guys who have progressed to the instructor level-
most men need to learn the range of useful behavior. Moreover, you
need to develop an instinctive feel for it. You need to get used to
the signs you get when you’re {being too nice~{the clues you receive when you are acting too nice}~the signals you get when you’re being too nice}. You must get used to
the signals you receive when you are acting like too much of a jerk. You need to be
able to recognize these early, when you’re only a little bit outside of
the ideal range, so you can calibrate back into it quickly. With practice
and experimentation, this will come naturally.

You most likely do this already. Let’s use the example of just talking
to a friend. You know what the ideal volume range is from experience.
However if you wind up outside of that range- like you have just gotten off
the plane and your ears are plugged and you don’t realize how loudly
you are talking – you will quickly and instinctively give yourself the
feedback you have to have to change… often without thinking about it.

When you are very loud, you will probably see people looking in your
direction more than usual, you might notice your friend shifting his
head back and looking less relaxed, or you might feel a difference in
your chest. When you are not making enough noise, your buddy will move in closer to hear
you, it might seem like the guy is paying attention to what you are saying more
than average, and so on. All of these are feedback mechanisms that let
you change your behavior. And they work, because you have lots of
experience with being too loud or too quiet in normal social situations
and have found out how to change the way you present yourself.

Learn exactly how to tell when you are doing too much or not enough of
something by being conscious of what results to expect when
you do.

Let’s apply this to niceness. What do you think are signs that you’re
being too kind?

-She chats about other guys when you’re around.

-She is comfortable touching you or being touched, but there’s
no sexuality behind it

-She wishes her boyfriend (or more men in general) were more like you.

-She isn’t dressed up/looking good when she meets you(unless you happen to be going out
somewhere).

-She takes calls from other men around you.

[This isn't a checklist. None of these necessarily mean you are too nice,
and not all of these signs may appear even when you are being too nice.]

Similarly, there are some common signs to be aware of when you are
being too much of a jerk:

-She calls you an “asshole” or “mean” (without smiling). A girl can call
you a jerk, evil, a player, or bad news and still be incredibly attracted to
you. Or she can call you anything while smiling. But most women will not
call you an asshole or tell you that you’re mean and actually want you.
Some words have more power than others with women; this is something we
sometimes get to in my advanced 1-1s and phone coaching.

-She’s not comfortable being alone with you.

-You’re teasing her or “negging” her and it used to get a positive response
but is now getting a negative one.

With any change you make, take it to both extremes (too much and too little)
and get accustomed to where the boundary lines are.

As a more advanced thought, if you’re trying to be less of the “nice guy,”
I have had much more success showing guys how to be selfish rather than jerks.”
When you are a jerk, you intentionally put another person down. When
you are selfish, doing what you want first. And that’s the problem
for most “nice guys.” They put other peoples’ needs and wants above their own.

I am not saying guys should be selfish for no good reason. Remember to just do this if you’re
seeing the usual nice/good guy reactions from girls. End or change plans when you do not feel
like going out or something more interesting comes up. With in reason, do not
offer to pick her up, drive her home, etc. Dates should be things that you’d
love doing either way- this doesn’t matter if you are normally too nice or not,
and Chapter 17 (Dates) of Magic Bullets explains why. When you’re faced with
a conclusion, ask your mind what a very selfish guy would do. And so on.

Finally, a major problem that most “nice guys” have is a fear of approaching women
which also goes by the name of approach anxiety. Figuring out exactly how to cure your approach
anxiety will lessen the amount of women that see you as a “nice” guy. If
this is a problem for you and you would like to get it taken care of in less than 30
days,